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Evening Classes:

Capitol Hill: St. Mark’s Episcopal Church – on 3rd St. right behind the Library of Congress   (Capitol Hill)

Arlington, VA: The Unitarian Universalist Church of Arlington   (Arlington, VA)

Catch my weekly talks and meditations on my iTunes podcast.

Special Series:

Transforming Your Relationship to Pain    Stay tuned for the next six-week offering.

Mindful Movement and Meditation:  Six-week series starting in 2012.  Stay tuned for registration information.

Year and Multi-Year Trainings:

The Year of Living Mindfully (April, 2012)

Two-Year Meditation Teacher Training (Fall, 2013)

Retreats and Events: (through summer)

January 28: Man Alive!  Men’s Meditation Retreat

March 3:  A Meditative Journey:  Movement, Meditation and Deep Relaxation

March 12:  The Energy Intensive: Yoga, Meditation and Breathwork  (Kripalu Center;  1-800-741-7353)

May 13:  Year of Living Mindfully  Opening Weekend

April 22:  IMCW Week-long Spring Retreat

May 11:  Kripalu Yoga Teacher Training: 500-hour Module on Teaching Meditation and Pranayama (Kripalu Center;  1-800-741-7353)

May 25:  Buddha and the Body: Meditation and Breathwork (Kripalu Center;  1-800-741-7353)

June 9:  Being – In Nature:  Outdoor Meditation Retreat  (River Bend Park, Great Falls, VA)

June 23:  Year of Living Mindfully Retreat (all years)

June 28:  The Energy Intensive:  Yoga, Meditation and Breathwork (Kripalu Center;  1-800-741-7353)

July 1:  The Still, Small Voice Within:  Meditation, Focusing and Intuition Training   (Kripalu Center;  1-800-741-7353)

July 28:  Dynamic Meditation

August 11: Conscious Relationships (with Tara Brach)

 

Wise Speech

“What You Can’t Communicate Controls You.”

When I first heard that edict year ago, I instantly recognized how true that was for me.

In difficult communications I could never find the right words and found myself thrown around by my anxiety around conflict, namely my need to be liked and my desire to do as little harm as possible.

Often my communications would err on the side of not being truthful and sucking up some hurt or would boil over in frustration or anger, resulting in a much more complicated mess.  I erred on the side of not even trying and felt amazingly confined and bottled up.

Then I learned some models for communication that helped me speak with less blame and more ownership of my experience and I could feel my heart flowing again.

The Buddha taught extensively on  Skillful Speech.

A quick summary:

1. Be kind

2. Tell the truth

3. Be aware of how the other person is listening and

4. Be timely

These guidelines are challenging.  The only way we can be kind and tell the truth is  when we shift our consciousness to a place that lessens or removes blame.

I’ve found Non-Violent Communication (NVC) to be a most amazing modality for communication, particularly when it comes to difficult conversations.  NVC forces us to reflect on:

1. What can we agree actually happened?

2   What do I feel?

3. What’s the unmet need?  What was I hoping for?

4. What life-affirming request might I make?

These inquiries slow down the process and force us to investigate what’s true.  Oftentimes these questions reveal our ‘story’ which is usually colored by embellishments or tinged with some form of aversion, clinging or delusion.

Eventually we discover the corollary to that initial statement:  What you can communicate sets you free.

Some links you might enjoy:

More on NVC

The NVC DC community

My talk on Wise Speech

 

Image of the Week: Geese in Flight

It’s always a debate as to how much to edit an image.

Some say the right thing to do is leave the image as natural as possibly while others claim it’s OK to tweak a bit … to lighten shadows, saturate the color just a wee bit to bring out the best in the image.

I was in the Keep It Utterly Natural Camp, but since I’ve been doing photo editing on my iPad I’m having a blast in the Manipulation Camp.  This morning I took off for the river with the fog dense, thick and smoky, hoping  to get some good shots as it would burn off.  Most of the shots I took were grey with little color available as there was so little light.

So I took to my editing tools and came up with this.  Cool.

At the Smith Center

 

 

No, I'm not checking email - that's the stopwatch function.

 

Last night I led a workshop on “The Still Small Voice Within: Exploring the Relationship between Meditation and Intuition” at the Smith Center for Healing and the Arts on U Street NW.

First of all the Smith Center is a wonderful place and does good work.  Thank you all for your donations that support their work.

It was fantastic to do this experience in an art gallery.

There is an interesting mindfulness exercise whereby you look around you and notice one thing you didn’t notice before.

And then another.  And another.

This can lead to a wonderful sense of presence.

With all the amazing art on the wall, it was incredibly rich as we all sat for a few moments after meditation to take in the imagery surrounding us.

Here’s more on the Smith Center for Healing and the Arts.

 

 

Image of the Week: Is This You?

One of my current goals is to catch the Coots with the sun behind them as they go into their frenzied ‘escape.’  Coots, otherwise known as March Hens, don’t have webbed feet.  Really cute, they give off the appearance of being incredibly dumb.  If one spooks in the least, they all freak out and frantically start running across the water while wildly flapping their wings.

This little one I can seriously relate to.  You know that feeling?

The Joy of Quiet

A Still LIve with Ice

 

Recently there’ve been some really cool things in the city I’d love to go to and the distance feels like a hassle … but mostly I love living at the edge of the river and the opportunity to sit in the stillness.

Here’s a great article from the New York Times on The Joy of Quiet.

 

 

The Immeasurable Quality of Love

Kindness, Compassion, Joy and Equanimity are considered immeasurable.

When you feel them, you literally open to limitlessness.

Our modern sage nails it here:

http://youtu.be/VRZSHXSNjiM

 

(Thanks, Clay.)

Gratitude

This speaks for itself:

 

(Thanks, Dan.)

Happy for No Reason: Surfing Crow

This definitely qualifies as a “Happy for No Reason” clip.  No ski lift required.

 

(Thanks, Laurel.)

Image of the Week

 

 

Flying at cross-purposes in early morning light.  These geese make their way down river while up  high, a plane leaves DC.

 

Assorted Links

Thanks to all for passing along links that others might find helpful and interesting.  Here’s a little compendium:

Can Living in the Moment Improve Your Health?  (NIH)

The Real Buddha Bar (NPR)

The Obsessive Joy of Autism  (Shift Journal)

 

(Thanks, Jessica and Laurel)